Sex Addiction / Sexual Compulsion

If you've found this page you're recognizing that you need help with your sexual behaviors and the effect they're having on your self-esteem and your life. There has been much debate about whether sex addiction is real, or if it's just an excuse cheaters and celebrities use to justify their "bad behaviors." Or people might prefer to call it sexual compulsivity, hypersexuality, problematic sexual behavior, out of control sexual behavior, or not want to give it a name at all.

Whatever is the right name for what you're going through, these negative cycles of behavior don't have to keep you trapped, feeling debilitating hopelessness and shame. Often these things are happening as a result of early traumas. Addressing these issues directly can help identify what is causing them, and we can work together to help you get out of the loop.

I am not here to make you feel bad about what you're authentically into sexually, but to help you heal whatever is at the root of the problem and help you have a healthy and authentic sex life.


*** A Note to Partners:

If you've just discovered that your partner or spouse has cheated on you or you think s/he may need to address negative sexual behaviors, you are probably feeling freaked out, angry, hurt, confused, or depressed -- or maybe all of those and more. It can be extremely traumatic to find out that a partner has been doing things that are outside of your agreed-upon relationship, especially for the first few days and weeks after your discovery. PLEASE don't try to go through this by yourself. Whether you see me for individual therapy or find another therapist or a group, please get help dealing with everything that's happening, especially from a professional who understands.

You don't have to go through this alone.